The 7 steps to being liked by absolutely everyone

Don’t you find it annoying that there are people out there who just seem to dislike you? Do you make enemies easily? Well then why not try these steps that will allow you to be liked by everyone?

1. Decide to change. If your current behaviours and actions are making you enemies, then there’s a good chance that if you continue as you are doing, you’ll continue to make enemies in the future. So you’ve got to decide to change your behaviour before anything will work. It’s very similar to learning to tie your shoes properly. You can continue to let your parents tie your shoes, and wish that you didn’t have to rely on them whenever you wanted to go outside. But nothing would change unless you learnt how to tie them yourself. And that would only happen if you decided you wanted to learn.

2. Tune your behaviour to the people you’re around. This takes skill and practice, but with a bit of effort, it is possible. So for example, if you happen to find yourself around a group of dedicated, hardworking students, then pretend to be a dedicated, hardworking student yourself. If you happen to be around a group of lazier, fun-loving people that would usually call hardworking students all sorts of dreadful names simply for being hardworking students, then pretend to be the same when you’re around them. The key is to develop 5 or 6 different personalities and be prepared to instantly switch between them at a moments notice. Very similar to switching channels on the television. (Although if you find yourself flicking through channels on the TV looking for something to watch; perhaps you’re better off going outside for a walk. Which means, if you were silly enough to refuse to learn yourself, you have to get your parents to tie your shoes for you.)

3. Don’t make enemies. It’s generally your fault for making an enemy out of someone only when you want this to be the case. So if you don’t try, it’ll probably be the other person’s fault whenever it appears that you and somebody else really aren’t seeming to get along. In which case, as soon as you notice that this is happening, the key is to immediately take steps to rectify the situation. Try and be extra nice to them. Hopefully, they’ll soon stop trying to be your enemy. For example, if your parents are starting to get annoyed at you because they always have to tie your shoes, as soon as you notice them getting cross with you about it immediately begin learning to tie your shoes yourself. That should prevent you from making an enemy out of your parents. (And for most people having an enemy as a parent is not a very nice thing at all.)

4. Be polite. Always. There are some people that think that good manners are very important. There are other people that think that good manners aren't so significant. If you’re not polite around these people, they probably won’t care. But if you’re not polite around the people that think that politeness is important, then they might get upset with you. On the other hand, if you are polite, then those that think politeness is important will likely respect you more, whereas those who are not polite won’t see this as a downside to you. Curious, isn’t it. In other words, if you remember your manners, you’re potentially doubling the people that may respect you. Like your parents, for example. If you’re stubborn enough to refuse to learn how to tie your shoes yourself, then your parents are far more likely to continue to respect you if you remember your manners whenever you ask them to tie your shoes.

5. Don’t swear. Never. The politeness rule applies with swearing as well. Whilst if you do swear there will be a group of people that will look down on you for doing so, if you don’t swear it’s not likely that anybody will find fault in you. And swearing at your parents when they offer to teach you how to tie your shoelaces won’t help anyone or change anything.

6. Spontaneous acts of kindness. Simply trying hard to not upset someone often isn’t enough to make them like you. Many people will only like others if they feel they have a reason to. And this may only be because the other person has done something nice to them. So try to do something nice for as many people as you can. Whether it’s something small like holding a door open for them, or whether it’s something bigger like offering to look after their pets while they’re overseas. But you should be concentrating most on the smaller things, because there’s a lot of people around. So offering to wash the dishes for your parents is a great idea to help them to continue to like you, even if you have to bother them to tie your shoelaces whenever you decide to go outside.

7. Realise that it’s impossible to be liked by everyone.And for those of you that really can’t be bothered learning to tie your shoelaces, you’re aged above 6, and your parents are going crazy, consider getting pull-on boots.